Dating

Who said dating was supposed to be easy??

I have found that dating is the most difficult thing to experience. It has changed since 20 years ago, that is for sure. I never knew what going "Dutch" was until someone did this to me (Honestly, I thought that was rude) .. Yes, i am not up to date on this dating thing. To be honest with you, I don't want to be an expert on it, because then it will show how long I have been out on the "Scene".

My main goal is to unite with Lancelot.

I thought that dating would be easy. I had gone through so many phases with this dating stuff that I am not longer attracted to the idea. Maybe because I am impatient and I want Lancelot NOW. Who knows, but I can say that it is a great way to make friends.

I have looked into so many dating sites that it fascinates me on how many people out there are out looking for the same thing. "LOVE".. I have read thousands (Literally) profiles. Yes, I signed up and even paid for some. I wanted to know the core of what people "Wanted" in a relationship or what made them compatible with someone. Some people wanted real love, some people only wanted sex, others intimate encounters, and others a three some.. Nothing wrong with any of these. If this is what you want, then go for it.

Every single profile had a detailed description of something that they wanted.  The #1 description that most/majority people wanted was laughter. Can you imagine, they wanted someone that would make them laugh. This leads into happiness and contentment. Anyone that wants laughter truly wants happiness and contentment. This was very interesting to me. Because this means they may not have a lot of this in their life and they are looking for their "Other half" the one that was going to be with them the majority of the time to make them laugh. This is actually brilliant, they just eliminated the unhappy, egoistic, Dramatic, snobby, stuck up individuals to apply. These people rarely laugh and think laughter is stupid.. So thumbs up to those that want laughter in your life, your success rate just increased for a great relationship.

When I was on the dating websites, it seemed like I was on a catalog shopping for "Something". Not sure what because we all know that pictures can be deceiving and when you read the profile, it may or may not tell you much, but it is kinda not fair for those that cannot detail themselves and only write a sentence or two. They are probably great matches for someone but they are not detailed and many miss these opportunities.

Someone I know says, "You need to eliminate the Shoppers from the Buyers". This is so true. You know how many times I have referred my blog to those that were "Interested" in meeting or talking to me that preferred to give me their phone number and talk then to take the time to get to know me via blog (No strings attached) to see if I was a match for them. These are shoppers. My time is valuable. I own my own business, I have kids and I need to take time out for me which is rarely never. It shows that people rather talk to you over the phone and hear what they want to hear to move forward then to take the time to not waste their time. I DONT want to waste my time as my time is valuable and I am sure yours is too. If I ask to see if we are compatible, then respect that. If you don't want to read it, fine, we are not meant for each other. I respect that, but it shows the respect I would get out of that person if I did pursue them. They would have never had any respect for me because they never had since the first time we exchanged an e-mail.

Chances are very few will read my blog. This is OK. This means we were never meant to get to know each other nor have a relationship. Everyone has a destiny and I have mine. I want to love and be loved. I don't want to date anymore. I want to go out on a relationship date. Yes, a relationship date. Go on dates with the same person and have a steady relationship with that person.

I find that the people that get to know each other via Internet and then progress to phone conversations and stay as this for awhile, get to know them well then date are much more successful daters. Why?? Because anything you didn't like via phone, you wont like in person. So why waste your time in dating a person that will never end up anywhere or ruin a potential friendship that could turn into something really good. I don't like letting anyone down. It hurts their confidence.

I felt bad after i didnt return the guys phone calls after he went "Dutch" on me. But, I believe that if you are asking a woman out to a drink or dinner than you need to treat the date how you want it to go. If you like her then I suggest you eat the $15.00 bill. (BTW, I paid $20.00 for the drink so he could see a girl could pay for her drink and over tip the waitress). Don't go anywhere expensive. Don't go out until you are sure.. Save your money. Why spend it on someone that looks great in a picture and when you meet, she is 30 pounds heavier than the picture.. If you talk before a date, you have time to exchange more pictures and conversations and you will know if you want to see/meet this chick .

Dating is not easy. No one said it was.. So do it with integrity.